Me: Self-fulfilling prophecy. Good thing or bad thing?
Mark: What are you talking about?
Me: You know what a self-fulfilling prophecy is?
Me: Is it a good thing or a bad thing?
Mark: A bad thing?
And that, my friends, is what pillow talk sounds like in our house.
But seriously. If you’ve ever talked about a self-fulfilling prophecy was it about a good thing or a bad thing?
I think we’ve made it a bad thing when really it’s just a neutral thing.
Because when our friend who hasn’t had a job in a year goes on an interview and says “I don’t think I’ll get it” and then she doesn’t we are likely to think “self-fulfilling prophecy”. She probably thought she wouldn’t get the job before she even got up that morning so she didn’t smile as bright or talk herself up enough and who wants to hire someone with a dull smile and no confidence, right? Self-fulfilling prophecy.
Or the friend who thinks his girlfriend is about to break up with him and he sits and frets about it and then a year later he finds out she’s been falling in love with her best friend’s brother and AHA! He was right. Self-fulfilling prophecy.
Most of us would agree that a girl that looks in the mirror every morning and repeats “I’m ugly” will feel ugly and then act ugly and then people will treat her like she’s ugly which will affirm that she is, in fact, ugly. Even if she looks like Angelina Jolie. Or Jennifer Aniston. Self-fulfilling prophecy.
But what about being a positive self-fulfilling prophet?
If you can flood your brain with negative thoughts and have negative outcomes, couldn’t you just as easily flood your brain with positive thoughts and create a positive reality? That doesn’t sit so easily with us, does it? We can accept that we create negative, but can we accept that we are also just as empowered to create positive? Self-fulfilling prophecy.
I realize that there are tons of Christians that I know and love that will accuse me of being New Agey and whatnot. That’s fine, but if you’re taking your Bible seriously you can’t ignore this:
And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Philippians 4:8