Mark and I used beautiful Celtic vows in our ceremony. We promised, essentially, to make our marriage a “Marriage of Equals”.
You cannot possess me for I belong to myself
But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give
You cannot command me, for I am a free person
But I shall serve you in those ways you require
and the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand
I pledge to you that yours will be the name I cry aloud in the night and
the eyes into which I smile in the morning
I pledge to you the first bite of my meat and the first drink from my cup
I pledge to you my living and my dying, each equally in your care
I shall be a shield for your back and you for mine
I shall not slander you, nor you me
I shall honor you above all others, and when we quarrel we shall do so in
private and tell no strangers our grievances
This is my wedding vow to you
This is the marriage of equals.
It was a beautiful ceremony that really captured what Mark and I have tried to make our relationship about over the past couple of years, and what we hope it will be in the years to come.
Word around town is that one of the lines, “and when we quarrel we shall do so in private and tell no strangers our grievances”, got our guests talking, reflecting on their own relationships. It is a good idea to respect your better half, and not allow others into your private world.
When I heard this I gushed to Mark, “Ohmygoodness, our marriage is already helping people!! How freaking awesome is that?!?”
The problem I’m running into is that I’m trying to write blogs about “life”. Part of “life” is the quarrelling. And for Mark and I, quarrelling is proving to be some of our funnier, more “blog worthy” moments.
I know you guys would get a kick out of our “dialogue” about the Democratic Presidential nomination (neither of us are Democrats, or even all that likely to vote), who is more thankful for the other (no, I’m not kidding), and the true definition of a “cover stealer”.
Alas, a vow I make is a vow I keep… so I’m off to find a loophole!