Out in the internet world a conversation was recently started about the relationship between women who make a lot of money and the amount of…ya know… mouth action she gets. The idea is that how much money she makes represents success, success turns into confidence, confidence gives her a sense of equality which causes her to believe she deserves just as much pleasure, in whatever form she desires, in the bedroom.
I’m a firm believer that confidence is the biggest factor for great sexual experiences. A nookie session is the last place you should have an emotional breakdown over the size of your thighs. But am I alone in thinking that Kisses Down Under require a level of confidence much greater than feeling good in a bikini? I mean, that’s a lot of confidence.
In the comment section of the post everyone seemed to think that it was just so normal to just command their partner to go Downtown that I started to feel like a real prude. I’m certainly not against it, but I’d describe myself as an apprehensive participant. At best.
There really is a special confidence that goes along with Special Kissing. A special confidence that I do not have, that I am starting to believe is required to not only get it, but to enjoy it as well.
So how do you get this special confidence if you don’t have it? I’m sure there are lots of options, but I’m going to go with the Smile When You’re Depressed Theory.
Smile When You’re Depressed says that if you want to be happy do what the happy people do… smile!
(Note: There was an experiment where people took a happiness test while holding a pencil in their mouth, forcing their mouth into the shape of a smile. I’ll wait while you try it. Anyways, they reported being happier than people told not to smile while taking the test. Actions control feelings, feelings control actions.)
So if you want the special confidence of one who gets Special Kisses do what they do and ask for a Special Kiss! I’d put money on it that the simple and empowering act of asking would give me a taste of the confidence that I lack. This new confidence would in turn allow me to relax and enjoy, which would increase the odds of wanting to ask for more later.
If there is anything you want in the bedroom (or life in general) go ahead and do it! Don’t wait til you feel like you’re the ‘right’ type of person. Give a lap dance. Say something dirty. I don’t really have a lot of suggestions, as you’ve read I’m still dealing with elementary level stuff here.
Actions control feelings control actions. Act your way into the right Hump Day attitude!