“I went to the pick up some plans this afternoon, and the printing guy was so totally hitting on me,” I bragged to Mark.
“What’d he say?” asked a clearly unimpressed Mark.
“First, he was all winky-winky and smiley at me. And then when I was signing the receipt he looked at my ring and said, ‘Wow, somebody loves you’. It was so obvious that he wanted me. But he was backing off because the ring is huge.”
At this point Mark is looking all kinds of smug. He loves that, at first glance, it looks like I’m sporting some major bling on my all-important finger.
I continued, “I told the dude I am loved very much but not to be too impressed because it was my birthstone, not a diamond.”
“Why did you have to say that?” cried Mark.
“Because it’s lying to let him think that I have diamond. And our love is not in the jewelry we wear, but in. our. hearts. So quit your crying ya big baby.”
The size of my ring has been a point of contention in our relationship from the first time we started talking about getting married.
Mark wanted to get me something big. Something that said a bigger dog has peed here so quit sniffing this woman was indeed spoken for.
I, on the other hand, wanted something small and simple. I had heard that, among other things, Gen Y marriages were doomed from the start because we thought we should have everything our parents had (and then some) within the first few years of marriage. I wanted a simple ring to symbolize that we were just starting out, that our Us was new. I wanted room to grow, and I wanted the bling on our 50th wedding anniversary. When we deserved it.
We met in the middle with a ring that is, in my opinion, huge, yet made with a simple aquamarine stone, my birthstone. And I’ll be honest, I fretted for weeks about the decision to go with the aquamarine stone because I kept thinking, “Everyone gets a diamond, does this mean our love is not as real??” I got over it easily when he proposed, though, because it was absolutely perfect for me.
I’m curious, what do you guys think about engagement rings? What kind do you have/want? Does size matter? Do you think the rings “say” anything about a relationship? Does anyone have anything inscribed on their rings?