My love language is words of affirmation. I know I’m loved when I hear it or read it. I have a folder in my inbox of emails that were encouraging or that pick me up for any number of reasons. Most fights with Mark start because I haven’t heard that he’s loved me in too long and end with him giving a beautiful Braveheart-like* speech about our love and how we’re going to be ok. On the regular, I want to write blog posts about how special my friends and family are to me and then I don’t because that’s all this blog would become and now I’m wondering if that’s such a bad thing…
I remember one time leading a Bible study and asking the women how they’d feel if their husband came home one night and said, “Honey, I just want you to know that I am so proud of you. You are doing such a beautiful job raising our kids and I don’t think I could ever thank you enough for that.” I remember most of the women tearing up at the thought. I remember thinking that even if words of affirmation isn’t your love language it’s still probably been too long since you’ve heard that you mattered. Your heart is still probably craving it.
I’ve talked about the Lizard Brain before and how it eats away at some of us. We constantly hear this voice saying that things are hopeless or never going to change, that you are ugly and don’t deserve love, that no one cares and you’re alone forever. You don’t have to be a genius or have a counseling degree to know what your loved ones need to hear right now.
I know that Mark needs to hear he is doing a wonderful job taking care of me and Otis. My mother-in-law needs to hear she has family. My dad needs to hear he is loved no matter what.
And I need to tell them.
Hallmark has a new app on Facebook, the Tell Them app. You vow to tell someone something they need to hear. I vowed to tell Mark (hi, Mark-who-never-reads-this-blog!) that he’s my best friend and there’s no one else in the world I’d want share my life with.
And I guess I’m wondering what do the people you love need to hear that maybe you’ve forgotten or put off telling them?
Go like the Tell Them app on Facebook and come back here and share your vow and Hallmark will send a greeting card pack to one of you guys. One of my readers. That’s right, an official giveaway!
*I totally had to Google mel gibson blue paint to remember the name of the movie. Also sad? I’ve never even seen Braveheart…